Jan 20, 2013

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad Perfection of Character by Imam Al Bukhari - 1 : Parents

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 
( Perfection of Character )
by 
Imam Muhammad Ibn Ismail Al-Bukhari (RA)
Translation by Ustaza Aisha Bewley
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1: Parents

1. Honouring Parents: The Words of Allah Almighty: "We have instructed man to

honour his parents." (29:8)

1. Abu 'Amr ash-Shaybani said, "The owner of this house (and he pointed at the house of 'Abdullah ibn

Mas'ud) said, "I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, which action Allah loves

best. He replied, 'Prayer at its proper time.' 'Then what?' I asked. He said, 'Then kindness to parents." I

asked, 'Then what?' He replied, 'Then jihad in the Way of Allah.'" He added, "He told me about these

things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more."

2. 'Abdullah ibn 'Umar said, "The pleasure of the Lord lies in the pleasure of the parent. The anger of the

Lord lies in the anger of the parent."

2. Dutifulness to One's Mother

3. Bahz ibn Hakim's grandfather said, "I asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your

mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your

mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. I asked, 'Then to whom should I be

dutiful?' 'Your father,' he replied, 'and then the next closest relative and then the next.'"

4. 'Ata' ibn Yasar said that a man came to Ibn 'Abbas and said, "I asked a woman to marry me and she

refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed

her. Is there any way for me to repent?" He asked, "Is your mother alive?" "No," he replied. He said,

"repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can."

'Ata' said, "I went to Ibn 'Abbas and asked him, 'Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?' He

replied, 'I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his

mother.'"

3. Dutifulness to One's Father

5. Abu Hurayra said, "The Prophet was asked, 'Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?' 'Your

mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?'

'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then whom?' 'Your mother,' he replied. He was asked, 'Then

whom?' He replied, 'Your father.'"

6. Abu Hurayra reported: "A man came to the Prophet of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him

peace, and asked, 'What do you command me to do?' He replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then

he asked him the same question again and he replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' He repeated it yet

again and the Prophet replied, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' He repeated the question a fourth time

and the reply was, 'Be dutiful towards your mother.' Then he put the question a fifth time and the Prophet

said, 'Be dutiful towards your father.'"

4. Dutifulness to Parents, even if they are unjust

7. Ibn 'Abbas said, "If any Muslim obeys Allah regarding his parents, Allah will open two gates of the

Garden for him. If there is only one parent, then one gate will be opened. If one of them is angry, then

Allah will not be pleased with him until that parent is pleased with him." He was asked, "Even if they

wrong him?" "Even if they wrong him" he replied.

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5. Gentle words to Parents

8. Taysala ibn Mayyas said, "I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions which

I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn 'Umar. He inquired, 'What are they?" I

replied, 'Such-and-such.' He stated, 'These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong

actions. They are: associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is

advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphan's property, heresy in the mosque,

scoffing, and causing one's parents to weep through disobedience.' Ibn 'Umar then said to me, 'Do you

wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Do you want to enter the Fire?' 'By Allah, yes!' I replied. He

asked, 'Are your parents still alive?' I replied, 'My mother is.' He said, 'By Allah, if you speak gently to

her and feed her, then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.'"

9. Hisham ibn 'Urwa related this ayat from his father, "Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due

humility." (17:24)

6. Repaying Parents

10. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "A child

cannot repay his father unless he finds him as a slave and the buys him and sets him free."

11. Sa'id ibn Abi Burda said, "I heard my father sat that Ibn 'Umar saw a Yamani man going around the

House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, 'I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened,

I am not frightened.' Then he asked, 'Ibn 'Umar? Do you think that I have repaid her?' He replied, 'No, not

even for a single groan.'

"Ibn 'Umar did tawaf and came to the Maqam and prayed two rak'ats. He said, 'Ibn Abi Musa, every two

rak'ats make up for everything that has happened between them.'"

12. Marwan used to make Abu Hurayra his agent and he used to be located in Dhu'l-Hulayfa. His mother

was in one house and he was in another. When he wanted to go out, he would stop at her door and say,

"Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." She would reply, "And peace be

upon you, my son, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." Then he said, "May Allah have mercy on

you as you raised me when I was a child." She answered, "May Allah have mercy on you as you were

dutiful to me when I was old." Whenever he wanted to go inside, he would do something similar.

13. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and

made a pledge to him that he would do hijra. He left his parents who were in tears. The Prophet said, 'Go

back to them and make them laugh as you made them weep.'"

14. Abu Hazim reported that Abu Murra, the mawla of Umm Hani' bint Abi Talib had told him that he

rode with Abu Hurayra to his land in al-'Aqiq. When he entered his land, he shouted out in his loudest

voice, "Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing!" She replied, "And peace be

upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." He said, "May Allah have mercy on you as you

raised me when I was a child." She replied, "My son, may Allah repay you well and be pleased with you

as you were dutiful towards me when I was old."

7. Disobedience to Parents

15. Abu Bakra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,

"Shall I tell you which is the worst of the major wrong actions?" "Yes, Messenger of Allah," they replied.

He said, "Associating something else with Allah and disobeying parents." he had been reclining, but then

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he said up and said, "And false witness." Abu Bakr said, "He continued to repeat it until I said, 'Is he

never going to stop?'"

16. Warrad, the scribe of al-Mughira ibn Shu'ba, said, "Mu'awiya wrote to al-Mughira, saying, 'Write

down for me what you heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say.'"

Warrad said, "He dictated to me and I wrote out, 'I heard him forbid asking too many questions, wasting

money and chit-chat.'"

8. "Allah curses whoever curses his parents"

17. Abu't-Tufayl said, "'Ali was asked, 'Did the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, give

you something special which he did not give to anyone else?' He replied, 'The Messenger of Allah, may

Allah bless him and grant him peace, did not give me anything special which he did not give to everyone

else except for what I have in my sword scabbard.' He brought out a piece of paper. Written on that paper

was: 'Allah curses anyone who sacrifices an animal to something other than Allah. Allah curses anyone

who steals a milestone. Allah curses anyone who curses his parents. Allah curses anyone who gives

shelter to an innovator.'"

9. Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience to Allah

18. Abu'd-Darda' said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,

recommended nine things to me: 'Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces or

burned. Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's

protection. Do not drink wine - it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If they command you to

abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them. Do not contend with those in power, even if

you think that you are in the right. Do not run away from the army when it is advances, even if you are

killed while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means. Do not raise a stick

against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.'"

19. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and

said, 'I have come to make you a pledge that will do hijra although I have left my parents in tears." The

Prophet said, 'Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.'"

20. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,

wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, 'Are your parents alive?' 'Yes,' he replied. he said, 'Then exert

yourself on their behalf.'"

10. The One who Fails his Parents will not enter the Garden

21. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Disgrace!

Disgrace! Disgrace!" They said, "Messenger of Allah, who?" He said, "The one who fails his parents or

one of them when they are old will enter the Fire."

11. Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his parents

22. Mu'adh said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will

prolong his life."

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12. One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is an idolater

23. Ibn 'Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, "When one or both of them reach old age with you,

do not say 'Ugh!' to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with

gentleness and generosity. Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say: 'Lord,

show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small." (17:23-24) He said, "This was

abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: 'It is not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness

for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the

Companions of the Blazing Fire.' (9:113)"

13. Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater

24. Sa'id ibn Abi Waqqas said: "Four ayats were revealed about me. The first was when my mother swore

she would neither eat nor drink until I left Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. Allah

Almighty revealed, 'But if they try to make you associate something with Me about which you have no

knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company with them correctly and courteously in this worldÉ' (31:15)

The second was when I took a sword that I admired and said, 'Messenger of Allah, give me this!' Then the

ayat was revealed: 'They will ask you about booty.' (8:1) The third was when I was ill and the Messenger

of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came to me and I said, 'Messenger of Allah, I want to

divide my property. Can I will away a half?' He said, 'No.' 'A third?' I asked. He was silent and so after

that it was allowed to will away a third. The fourth was when I had been drinking wine with some of the

Ansar. One of them hit my nose with the jawbone of a camel. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him

and grant him peace, and Allah Almighty revealed the prohibition of wine."

25. Asma' bint Abi Bakr said, "In the time of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, my

mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him

peace, 'Do I have to treat her well?' 'Yes,' he replied."

Ibn 'Uyayna said, "Then Allah revealed about her, 'Allah does not forbid you from being good to those

who have not fought you in the deen.' (60:8)"

26. Ibn 'Umar said, "'Umar saw a silk robe for sale. He said, 'Messenger of Allah, would you buy this

robe and wear it on Jumu'a and when delegations visit you?' He replied, 'Only a person who has no

portion in the Next World could wear this.' Then the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant

him peace, was given some robes made of the same material. He sent one of the robes to 'Umar. 'Umar

exclaimed, 'How can I wear it when you said what you said about it?' The Prophet replied, 'I did not give

it to you so that you could wear it. You can sell it or give it to someone.' 'Umar sent it to a brother of his

in Makka who had not yet become Muslim."

14. A person should not revile his parents

27. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Reviling

one's parents is one of the great wrong actions." They asked, "How could he revile them?" He said, "He

reviles a man who then in turn reviles his mother and father."

28. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man's reviling his father is one of the major wrong actions in the sight of

Allah Almighty."

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15. The punishment for disobeying parents

29. Abu Bakra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "There is no

wrong action more likely to bring punishment in this world in addition to what is stored up in the Next

World than oppression and severing ties of kinship."

30. 'Imran ibn Husayn said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,

'What do you say about fornication, drinking wine and theft?' 'Allah and His Messenger know best,' we

replied. He stated, 'They are acts of outrage and there is punishment for them, but shall I tell you which is

the greatest of the great wrong actions? Associating with Allah Almighty and disobeying parents.' He had

been reclining, but then he sat up and said, 'and lying.'"

16. Making Parents weep

31. Ibn 'Umar said, "Making parents weep is part of disobedience and one of the major wrong actions."

17. The Supplication of Parents

32. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Three

supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the

supplication of someone on a journey, and the supplication of parents for their children."

33. Abu Hurayra reported that he heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him

peace, say, "No human child has ever spoken in the cradle except for 'Isa ibn Maryam, may Allah bless

him and grant him peace, and the companion of Jurayj." Abu Hurayra asked, "Prophet of Allah, who was

the companion of Jurayj?" The Prophet replied, "Jurayj was a monk who lived in a hermitage. There was

a cowherd who used to come to the foot of his hermitage and a woman from the village used to come to

the cowherd.

"One day his mother came while he was praying and called out, 'Jurayj!' He asked himself, 'My mother or

my prayer?' He concluded that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted to him a second time and he again

asked himself, 'My mother or my prayer?' He thought that he should prefer the prayer. She shouted a third

time and yet again he asked himself, 'My mother or my prayer?' He again concluded that he should prefer

the prayer. When he did not answer her, she said, 'Jurayj, may Allah not let you die until you have looked

at the faces of the beautiful women.' Then she left.

"Then the village woman was brought before the king after she had given birth to a child. He asked,

'Whose is it?' 'Jurayj's,' she replied. He asked, 'The man in the hermitage?' 'Yes,' she answered. He

ordered, 'Destroy his hermitage and bring him to me.' They hacked at his hermitage with axes until it

collapsed. They bound his hand to his neck with a rope and took him along to the king. When he passed

by the beautiful women, he saw them and smiled. They were looking at him along with the people.

"The king asked, 'Do you know what this woman claims?' 'What does she claim?' he asked. He replied,

'She claims that you are the father of her child.' He asked her, 'Where is the child?' They replied, 'It is in

her room.' He went to the child and said, 'Who is your father?' 'The cowherd,' he replied. The king said,

'Shall we build your hermitage out of gold?' 'No,' he replied. He asked, 'Of silver?' 'No,' he replied. The

king asked, 'What shall we build it with?' He said, 'Put it back the way you found it.' Then the king asked,

'What made you smile.' 'Something I recognised,' he replied, 'The supplication of my mother overtook

me.' Then he told him about it."

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18. Offering Islam to a Christian mother

34. Abu Hurayra said, "Neither Jew nor Christian has heard me and then not loved me. I wanted my

mother to become Muslim, but she refused. I told her about it and she still refused. I went to the Prophet,

may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'Pray to Allah for me.' He did so and I went to her.

She was inside the door of the house and said, 'Abu Hurayra, I have become Muslim.' I told the Prophet,

may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and I asked, 'Make supplication to Allah for me and my

mother.' He said, 'O Allah, make people love Abu Hurayra and his mother.'"

19. Dutifulness towards Parents after their Death

35. Abu Usayd said, "We were with the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace,

when a man asked, 'Messenger of Allah, is there any act of dutifulness which I can do for my parents after

their death?' He replied, 'Yes. There are four things: Supplication for them, asking forgiveness for them,

fulfilling their pledges, and being generous to friends of theirs. You only have ties of kinship through

your parents."

36. Abu Hurayra said, "The dead person can be raised a degree after his death. He said, 'My Lord, how is

this?' He was told, 'Your child can ask for forgiveness for you.'"

37. Ibn Sirin said, "We were with Abu Hurayra one night and he said, 'O Allah, forgive Abu Hurayra and

his mother and whoever asks for forgiveness for both of them.'" Muhammad said, "We used to ask for

forgiveness for them so that we would be included in Abu Hurayra's supplication."

38. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said,

"When a person dies, all action is cut off for him with the exception of three things: sadaqa which

continues, knowledge which benefits, or a righteous child who makes supplication for him."

39. Ibn 'Abbas reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allah, my mother died without a will. Will it help

her if I give sadaqa on her behalf?" "Yes," he replied.

20. The Dutifulness of someone who maintains what his father loved

40. 'Abdullah ibn Dinar reported that Ibn 'Umar passed by a bedouin during a journey. The bedouin's

father had been a friend of 'Umar's. The bedouin said, "Am I not the son of so-and-so?" He said, "Yes,

indeed." Ibn 'Umar ordered that he be given a donkey which was following him. He also took off his

turban and gave it to him, One of the men with him said, "Wouldn't two dirhams be enough for him?" He

replied, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Maintain what your father loved.

Do not cut it off so that Allah puts out your light."

41. Ibn 'Umar reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The

strongest form of dutifulness is when a man maintains relations with the people his father loved."

21. Do not cut off someone with whom your father maintained ties

42. Sa'd ibn 'Ubada az-Zurqi reported that his father said, "I was sitting in the mosque in Madina with

'Amr ibn 'Uthman when 'Abdullah ibn Salam walked by, leaning on his nephew. 'Amr left the assembly

and showed his concern for him." Then Ibn Salam returned to them and said, "Do what you like, 'Amr ibn

'Uthman," (and he said it two or three times) By the One who sent Muhammad, may Allah bless him and

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grant him peace, with the Truth, it is in the Book of Allah Almighty (and he said it twice), 'Do not cut off

those your father has joined so that that extinguishes your light.'"

22. Love is inherited

43. Abu Bakr ibn Hazm reported that one of the Companions of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and

grant him peace, said, "It is enough that I tell you that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and

grant him peace, said, 'Love is inherited.'"

23. A man should not call his father by his name nor sit down before him nor walk in

front of him

44. Abu Hurayra saw two men and said to one of them, "Who is this man in relation to you?" He is my

father," he replied. He said, "Do not call him by his own name nor walk in front of him nor sit down

before him."

24. Can a man call his father by his kunya?

45. Shahr ibn Hawshab said, "We went out with Ibn 'Umar and Salim said to him, 'Peace, Abu 'Abdu'r-

Rahman.'"

46. 'Abdullah ibn Dinar said reported that Ibn 'Umar said, "But Abu Hafs 'Umar decided..." 
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